My Family Man

Of course you've seen the movie...one of my favorites, and you remember the scene where Nicolas Cage woke up one morning after being in his new life with the wife and kids and everything was different and quite scary. He was resisting the whole family thing and desperately wanted to get back to his other sexy and single life. On this particular morning however, everything clicked and he woke up, took the dog out, warmed the baby's milk, and changed a diaper.

Well, that morning took place here one day and continues occurring daily in our home now. My husband, and I love him so much, was one of those men who had somewhat of a difficult time really embracing being a father, the reality of our life and how much it changed once having our son. We struggled quite a bit for the first several months because of that. I was so in love with our son and so committed (still am) and so tired of course. I just wanted to do the best I could every day and wanted my husband to support me and at the very least, understand and not give me a hard time about the way things had changed. I would've been happy with him simply accepting our reality. That would've been enough.

I am so amazed at how much more he has exceeded my hopes and expectations as the father I knew he could be. I do believe it was one morning that I first saw it, just like in the movie. It all just connected for him and he was so into our son and so supportive of me. He truly is wonderful and the most incredible father and husband. Being pregnant, I have been so fatigued and it's been challenging doing everything that I was used to doing before. He not only changes diapers, helps out with our precious dog, Savvy, assists me around the house, etc. He now takes Pierce for walks, plays with him, reads to him, took him on his first man date out to lunch and so much more. There are just so many little things that I can't believe every day. He's such a natural.

I am just so lucky and so happy and so in love with my family. I knew he was the man I wanted to marry and I knew he would be the father I wanted for our children. It took a little time for him to adjust but, as I said, he has done so much more than that. I melt every day watching them and I am just so grateful for all of this. With our new son arriving in December, we are both so excited. Everything is going so well and both of our boys are so healthy and strong. Thank you Family Man for all that you do, for all of your love and support, and for being the man you are. I am so proud of you and I love you so much.

Sandy Frankfort

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A Happy Co-Sleeping Family

Well, with all of the questions and doubts and adjustments, our family has found our sleeping solution!  As I mentioned previously, we were doing the whole "other room" thing and my husband and I weren't sleeping together as I was sleeping with my son.  We were going to try the "daddy calms him in the middle of the night in his crib" approach but that didn't exactly work.  Not because we tried and failed, but rather because we just all wanted to be together and it didn't feel right putting Pierce in a room across the house.  So, we gave it a shot and Pierce went to sleep with us in our bed a couple of weeks ago.  He's been so happy and sleeping so well and Dana and I are so happy also.  We all get to be together, everyone is getting proper rest, and we say every night how special it is that we can all be so close.  I am so lucky to have a husband who is supportive and in love with our son as I am.  He supports this whole attachment parenting philosophy that I am practicing and he is a wonderful attachment parent as well.  It's so interesting how much you go through before you find what really works.  You doubt yourself along the way, you have disagreements, you stand for what you believe in, you realize you share the same views and then you find your path.  We have found ours after various trials and I am so grateful and enjoying every second with my family.  Pierce wakes up every morning and puts his head on my belly and says, "Baaaaaabbbbbyyyyy!"  It is too precious and the smile on his face and all of our faces in the morning definitely remind us that we have found what works for our family.  Just as I've said about trusting your instincts regarding breastfeeding, I feel the same about your family and your sleeping situation.  If the crib works and you are all happy… excellent.  If you can all share a family bed comfortably… fabulous!  I told Dana that since we found out we are having another boy, I don't need to start all over with pink and green baby stuff and we'll save a lot of money.  Sooooooooo, my new request simply is an extra large (if there is anything out there larger than a king) bed to accommodate our growing family.  Ahhhh.... isn’t life sweet?  Happy 4th all and enjoy your holiday weekend!  

Sandy Frankfort

LoveWrap - Wrap Your Baby With Love
sandy@babylovewrap.com
http://www.babylovewrap.com